The World of Dating and Then Some….

Archive for June 2011

So my birthday is coming up in a few days and I’m slowly getting closer to the big 3-0. I recently met up with an old guy friend who, at the time when we first started hanging out, I was extremely into. I mean I was so desperate for a relationship with this guy that when he would try to have a regular conversation with me, I just wanted to be intimate with him because I thought that if I was, he would be my boyfriend.

He apparently doesn’t forget ANYTHING because he brought up ALL my old ways including how promiscuous I tried to be with him. (NOT LIL OL’ ME!!) As he was speaking about the past, all I could think of was how much I have grown in the last 3 years especially since I was in a pretty good relationship for most of that time. I also remembered that this guy needed to be put in his place and that’s why we stopped talking over 3 years ago.

Of course now it’s the typical I’m a different man, I’m not like I used to be blah blah blah excuses from him. That all may be true but that doesn’t mean that I am as attracted to him as I used to be. I was in a drastic, frenzied place in my life. I felt that I NEEDED to have a boyfriend and I was willing to settle.

But not anymore. I know what I’m looking for and I REFUSE to settle for anything else no matter how many men I have to date, it will happen!!

As for my old friend, I have no problem hanging out with him but I’m usually not one to move backwards….

GO FORTH!!!!!!!!!!!!!



Yea so I’ve definitely been kissing a whole lot of frogs lately.  But I guess that’s what dating is all about right??


I refuse to settle and for some reason I keep giving the same guy chance after chance but after the last “hang out”, I’m really DONE!! At least I hope I am….

Why do (most) women form this connection with a man after she sleeps with them?? It’s supposed to be just sex. But nnoooooo after that happens, you want them to treat you like a princess and realize that they CAN NOT live without you in their lives.  I just need to be more picky with who I sleep with from now on because these crazy thoughts are consuming my days!! 

BTW, I didn’t realize that just because you have the “flu”, you lose the ability to text someone back when you have plans with them and want to confirm what we are going to do and then have the AUDACITY to use that as an excuse and expect me to keep talking to you!!?? HELL TO THE NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

Until next time,


I know it’s different for every woman but when does one start to accept being single?? It’s been 6 months and I still don’t feel 100% acceptance of the single life. I am still craving that male attention and affection. My current victim (haha) is slowing losing points with me. The other day I said I needed more consistency (AGAIN) and gave me about 10 different excuses as to why he hasn’t done what he says he feels. “But I am interested” doesn’t cut it mister!! I may not have the best self-esteem BUT I refuse to be played for a fool. 

I tell him I don’t want to invest more time in whatever this is we have going on yet I’ve contacted him twice since allegedly putting my foot down. Talk about hypocritical!! What the F is wrong with me?? AHHHH I do really like him. I have from day 1.  I know you can’t change anyone who doesn’t want to change, but god dammit I feel I need to keep trying!!!!!!!

Every woman wants a man to profess his love and claim that he CAN NOT live with you in his life even if you’ve only known him 2 months. At least that’s what I would like. Why are men such fools and so quick to pass up a FABULOUS thing??      


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  • JillyT0125: Good for you!!!! I am not quite sure I know who this old friend is, but there is a reason why you don't talk to him anymore. Old habits are hard to
  • Mairz: Honey, you have to learn to be by yourself and to enjoy being by yourself so that you do not become demanding, needy or bitchy. So stop looking. Find
  • Josh: Hey hun? really? Guy seems like a tool. Move on


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