The World of Dating and Then Some….

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Ummm yea so who the hell gave the right to this guy to think he can ask me a million questions about my whereabouts when we went out TWICE?! Apparently this douche does! Hey dude, how about you get your sh”t together and not blow up all my free texts only when you’re drinking telling me you NEED to see me at that very moment?! Just an idea….

I TRIED giving him the benefit of the doubt telling him he could come over the next day but when I asked him to let me know if he’s definitely coming, he tells me he’s going to Virginia! Ok yea I’m ALL SET with that!

Why don’t these guys  delete your number when you  haven’t talked to them in days even weeks?! I know I sure as hell do!! I have a new motto…You need to EARN your way to be saved in my damn phone! So how about you do the same with me and not just hit me up when it’s convenient for you?! THANKS FOR PLAYING!! 🙂

Oh yea remember the guy I told you about in the last blog that said he missed me after telling me he was seeing someone?? Yea he totally texted me with “How are you stranger?” NOOOO NOOO NOOO Leave me the F alone!!!

I really CAN’T make this sh*t up people!

Until next time….



WOW…..That’s how I can sum up the week I just had. Let’s start with Mr. Brooklynite. I know I’ve mentioned him before but I didn’t give him a nickname. Well here it goes…

We’ve been seeing, dating, hanging out whatever the F you want to call it for a couple of months now. I had to get him back on track a few times which should have been a sign for me from the start.  BUT I was becoming emotionally attached to him even though my conscience knew something seemed fishy.  He takes me out for my birthday before hand because he says he won’t be around my actual birthday weekend. VERY SWEET and quite unexpected I thought. So we had a great night and I left the next day unsure when I would see him again. 

A few days later, I’m slacking at work and viewing his page for his gigs. BTW he’s a DJ. I see he has an event planned for the week that he told me he’d be in Florida. I was thinking hmmmm that doesn’t make sense. Soooo being a female, I did my investigating and totally caught him lying to me about being away when he was sleeping in his place every night since with GOD KNOWS who else!!

Mind you, he asked me if I was dating or sleeping with others and I said yes. So why did he feel that he couldn’t tell me the same??? He wanted to have his cake and eat it too but his pea brain thought it would make more sense to LIE to me for 2 weeks then just tell me he was giving his lovin’ to another. 

Well I reeled him in and totally blew up his spot. I told him I was too good for him and to lose my number. I was so proud of myself because if this was 5 years ago, I probably would have forgiven him cause I “liked” him and felt he would realize how fabulous I was!!!  

Yea he’s a fool but karma is a BITCH and will bite him in the ass I’m sure….

BTW, just because I have some meat on my bones DOES NOT mean I want to date a guy that looks like Fat Joe!!! I’m just not attracted to men that waddle when they walk….SORRY!!!!! 


So my birthday is coming up in a few days and I’m slowly getting closer to the big 3-0. I recently met up with an old guy friend who, at the time when we first started hanging out, I was extremely into. I mean I was so desperate for a relationship with this guy that when he would try to have a regular conversation with me, I just wanted to be intimate with him because I thought that if I was, he would be my boyfriend.

He apparently doesn’t forget ANYTHING because he brought up ALL my old ways including how promiscuous I tried to be with him. (NOT LIL OL’ ME!!) As he was speaking about the past, all I could think of was how much I have grown in the last 3 years especially since I was in a pretty good relationship for most of that time. I also remembered that this guy needed to be put in his place and that’s why we stopped talking over 3 years ago.

Of course now it’s the typical I’m a different man, I’m not like I used to be blah blah blah excuses from him. That all may be true but that doesn’t mean that I am as attracted to him as I used to be. I was in a drastic, frenzied place in my life. I felt that I NEEDED to have a boyfriend and I was willing to settle.

But not anymore. I know what I’m looking for and I REFUSE to settle for anything else no matter how many men I have to date, it will happen!!

As for my old friend, I have no problem hanging out with him but I’m usually not one to move backwards….

GO FORTH!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Yea so I’ve definitely been kissing a whole lot of frogs lately.  But I guess that’s what dating is all about right??


I refuse to settle and for some reason I keep giving the same guy chance after chance but after the last “hang out”, I’m really DONE!! At least I hope I am….

Why do (most) women form this connection with a man after she sleeps with them?? It’s supposed to be just sex. But nnoooooo after that happens, you want them to treat you like a princess and realize that they CAN NOT live without you in their lives.  I just need to be more picky with who I sleep with from now on because these crazy thoughts are consuming my days!! 

BTW, I didn’t realize that just because you have the “flu”, you lose the ability to text someone back when you have plans with them and want to confirm what we are going to do and then have the AUDACITY to use that as an excuse and expect me to keep talking to you!!?? HELL TO THE NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

Until next time,


I know it’s different for every woman but when does one start to accept being single?? It’s been 6 months and I still don’t feel 100% acceptance of the single life. I am still craving that male attention and affection. My current victim (haha) is slowing losing points with me. The other day I said I needed more consistency (AGAIN) and gave me about 10 different excuses as to why he hasn’t done what he says he feels. “But I am interested” doesn’t cut it mister!! I may not have the best self-esteem BUT I refuse to be played for a fool. 

I tell him I don’t want to invest more time in whatever this is we have going on yet I’ve contacted him twice since allegedly putting my foot down. Talk about hypocritical!! What the F is wrong with me?? AHHHH I do really like him. I have from day 1.  I know you can’t change anyone who doesn’t want to change, but god dammit I feel I need to keep trying!!!!!!!

Every woman wants a man to profess his love and claim that he CAN NOT live with you in his life even if you’ve only known him 2 months. At least that’s what I would like. Why are men such fools and so quick to pass up a FABULOUS thing??      

‘Hey hun” xo… The text I get from a guy I went out with a few times at 1030 last night after not hearing from him all day.  My response….HEY HUN?!? Really? Where the HELL have you been ALL day? I was putting you in the a**hole category for the past 6 hours!! WELL, that’s what I was THINKING but of course I didn’t actually say that because he’d be running for the hills. I actually decided just to ignore it and let him do the chasing for awhile to see where he stands.

Listen, I’m not looking to jump into another relationship just yet BUT I do need some reassurance due to my lack of self-esteem and confidence. Is it too much to ask for more than a generic how was your day and then when I respond, I don’t get a response back?? Of course it doesn’t help that we slept together and now I’m convinced he got what he wanted and now he’s gonna move on!!

Is he playing the “nice’ guy role because he doesn’t wanna seem like a douche? I don’t need his or any man’s sympathy or NEED to feel they have to contact me everyday if they really aren’t interested.

Should I give this guy some more time or cut off ties?? I’m always looking for other men to wine and dine me but he’s been the most consistent lately so he’s basically consuming my mind on a daily basis which is so FRUSTRATING!!! Why are women programmed to become almost OBSESSED with a man’s every move and what he must be thinking or doing when he’s not getting in touch with you??

HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AHHHHHH

Okay I need help with this one….

Originally, this handsome man contacted me on the site I’m on a little over a month ago. I responded because I enjoyed what he had to say in his profile and of course, he’s a cutie! After  that, he went MIA for about a week. Then he came back and said hello and explained to me what he does for work therefore why he’s been so busy.

At first, I wasn’t going to respond because I would like to be in contact with someone who’s more available. Two days later, he wrote me just to say hello and I figured what the hell, he seems sweet so I’ll start a convo and see what happens.

WELL, it’s been almost a month and we’ve been writing back and forth almost everyday. And these aren’t paragraph long responses, I’m talking like a page’s worth of information about both of us just like we were sitting face to face.

I mentioned a little over a week ago that I would like for him to be the first guy I’ve met on the site. He said he’d love to take me out and that he’d be free soon.

Since then, we’ve been having our regular daily conversations and I haven’t mentioned about getting together yet and neither has he. So here’s my question….

How long should I wait until I mention something again about getting together? Or should I just keep it like it is and wait for him to make the move?? I don’t wanna get my hopes up and then we don’t even get together. PLEASE HELP!! Here’s my poll or feel free to comment! 🙂



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  • JillyT0125: Good for you!!!! I am not quite sure I know who this old friend is, but there is a reason why you don't talk to him anymore. Old habits are hard to
  • Mairz: Honey, you have to learn to be by yourself and to enjoy being by yourself so that you do not become demanding, needy or bitchy. So stop looking. Find
  • Josh: Hey hun? really? Guy seems like a tool. Move on


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